I was talking to a male friend the other night and he was telling me that he was seeing a woman on a casual basis for over a month now. He would see her regularly and enjoyed the intellectual, emotional and physical side of this relationship/friendship. All good, till he said that he was still looking for a woman to have a relationship with as she was ?not his type of woman?. Upon further questioning he told me that she had allowed him to pick her up at a bar and had slept with him the first night. Thus making her disqualified as suitable relationship material. After I thumped him one, lol, we discussed this as I could not believe that he would think like this.Though he did agree that it was double standards, this is how he felt, that he did not want a relationship with someone he considered promiscuous. Do we as women still face these double standards? Men are not only allowed but encouraged to crow louder than a rooster in regards to their sexual conquests and have the freedom to express their sexual needs, while women are down graded and demoralized for doing the same. On asking my friend when he would thought it was right for her to have got sexual with him, he could not answer anything definite, said when it felt right, maybe on the 2nd or 3rd date. Does it make a woman promiscuous if she knows what she wants and sleeps with a man on the first date?Or can a woman who just holds out for the 3rd date, and then has sex, maintain her appearance of morality?What if she was doing this 2 or 3 times a month? What would happen if woman used this as a judge of character on men, and disqualified all men that agreed to sleep with them as not suitable partner material?
OK so we are in the silly season with most of us rushing around like crazy getting ready for Santa to arrive. Yesterday my six year old asked me what I wanted for Santa to bring me? Well I had to stop and think what I really wanted just for me. Its been quite a while since Santa came to visit me. I must have been a naughty girl. LOL I really had to think what is it that I would ask from Santa that would just be for me, something that would make me happy. So come on and sit on Santa's knee, and tell us what would you ask for this year, that is just for you to make you happy? :)
In recent times I have had it mentioned to me that being a natural red head and being "fiery" that I must have a bad temper.
Seems its stereotyped like the "dumb blonde" (sorry) comments we have often heard.
Now when faced with this sort of "expert" knowledge how does one defend oneself?
I personally think I'm one of the most even tempered people I know. If I do get angry I will go quite till I have calmed down and then I will want to talk about it, calmly. I'm not one for screaming scathing fights, despite how good they say the make up sex is. LOL
So do we really have preconceived ideas about other peoples behavior according to their physical appearance? What do you think? Is there a basis of truth to them?
Hi all, who likes a bit of a mental challenge? Hope you have fun with it. :)
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According to Mensa if you get 23 of these you are a genius. Only 2 Mensa members achieved full marks.
OK all you lovely bloggers really want your opinion here.
I was dating a really nice man over 12 months ago for about 2 months, who at the time said that he did not want a relationship with me, so we ended and moved on. Stayed friends though.
Now he wants to try again. He says that now he can trust me and open up to me, which is something he would not do before.
I think of him as a friend now, though back then would have liked to try for more.
So can we go back, can what is now looked upon as a friendship be made into something more?
Has anyone been in this type of situation before? What happened, did it work out?
How many times before had I heard this comment being used mainly by men referring to how they treat their women.
The other day I heard a friend use this in regards to a women that he was interested in, and how he felt that she was treating him.
Got me thinking if this sort of behavior really works? It brought forth a lot of questions. :)
Do we all, men and women, like to have someone make it a challenge to get them? Usually in the game of love there is one person that is chasing and the other letting them try to catch them.
If you like to do the chasing, do you no longer desire or find someone exciting once you feel you have got them?
Honestly I find the idea so alien to me it seems like it playing games. If I like someone I want to let them know.
What do you think? Have you had the "treat them mean keep them keen" treatment done to you, and did you like it? Is this playing games with someone?
Is this about giving more attention to the one that is being "mean", or is this about some sort of power play?
I just went to see who viewed me and right there as a main photo was a big black dong looking back at me!!
Well you could imagine my reaction to this..... YEP .....where is that magnifying glass....quick before LF's discovers it. LOL
My first thought, went to Ariesram. Well no, to be honest my second thoughts :)
NO NO ...dirty minds...not for that reason, but because he could not even keep a baby photo up here, and here I could see ALL in full techni color.
Does this really work for you guys? Do you get lots more responses from the women on here?
I know if a woman did this she would, but we do not think the same way as you do .... or do we?
Are we women stimulated but seeing the male naked flesh?
Would a photo of great body parts influence you on whether you would want to know that person better?
Oh so do you want to see too???
Well I went back to get his user id, and damn he was gone. Now I had thought I remembered his user name but do forgive me as I was somewhat distracted. he he
Every now and again I get someone that has initiated a chat with me on here or on messenger.
Well the chat starts of with how are you which I answer and ask them the same back, so far so good. hey?
Well this is where the conversation then stops, from the other side. Now i wait for the the next message and nothing comes. OK, maybe they are just nervous or something? So I then ask them another question.
Well after doing this about 5 times and only having them respond to my questions (usually only one liners) and not say anything else, I wonder what the hell I'm doing here? lol
They asked to speak to ME, yet I am the one that is making the conversation.
It is not THAT HARD to make conversation!
Just ask questions and share a bit about yourself so the other person finds it easier to ask a questions back!!!!
Is this rocket science? LOL
(Now want to say here that this is just some people. Most are pretty good and I enjoy their chats very much)xxx
You really flatter someone when you want to know abut them and the only way to do this is to ask questions.
Really did wonder why did they call me? If they called me to have me ask about them...
Well as the saying goes....dont call me I'll call you.
Does any body else have this happen to them? How do you handle it?
OK so some of you may hate me after this one, please make sure the tomatoes are really rotten before throwing. LOL Well I have been on here for a while and have had numerous chats in this time. During some of these, discussions have turned to sexual preference. Now invariable in nearly every instance I have been presented with the overwhelming insistence that they absolutely love to give lots of or*l. Not only do they love it but they can and will do it for hours. Now some of you are saying great what the problem??? lol Well they just keep pushing this, like I should be so impressed by this. That it will tip the scales on whether we should/will go further. Also they continue even after I tell them that this is NOT such a big issue for me, and that though I would not exclude it, there are other things that interest me more. This got me wondering .... have men become rote with this response? Do they tell us this because they think that we want to hear it? Does this increase their odds of getting lucky? Now in reality ladies, how many men have you encountered that do love this that much? How many will do it for more than 5 or 10 minutes? To any men that are game enough to respond here. LOL Do you really love it that much? Or is this great pleasure only a response to what you think we women want from you? I want to meet a man who is truthful and responsive to me, not one running one set answers because they think it is what they are meant to say. We are all individuals and like different things, but at the moment I feel like I'm being put into a common pool, and getting robotic responses. Is it just me? xxx
Ok you guessed it, yep I'm still home, and here to annoy you all. LOL Had this conversation with a girlfriend who after getting intimate with her latest guy, was somewhat disappointed of his pen*s size as she had expected something different. Now the reason she was expecting something much more substantial was because "he has big hands" lol There are a lot of different stories as to what you should look out for, but do any of them really predict with any acuracy what you are likely to encouter when the pants fall down?
Music and songs can sometimes express what we are feeling so well that they seem to be singing about us or for us. I get stuck on a particular song that at that time seems to express more of what I'm feeling. Now when I say get stuck, I really mean this, want to listen to it all the time, just keep replaying it. Drives my kids crazy. lol Am I crazy or do you guys do this too? Right now I'm stuck on "If That's Love" - Laura Pausini. I try listening to some of my other favorites but they are not hitting the right place I guess. If you are like this what is your "stuck" song right now? :)
Recent incidents and discussions with friends and in the blogs have made me ponder on this one. Can a males and females really be "friends"? I have heard it said before that underlying such a friendship was a desire from one of them, to have something more, something that they could not get, so they then took the only thing that was on offer. Do we accept a "friendship" but secretly hope that it will turn into something more? Can males and females truly be friends without hidden agenda's or expectations? What do you guys think? Do any of you have long term friends like this that you know for sure there was no other attraction at the start of the friendship?
Something recently go me wondering about this thing we call love and the process of falling in love. So how long really does it take for people to fall in love? How do you know and not just infatuation or lust? We hear about love at first sight, is this something that is real or some sort of chemical breakdown that occurs? What it would create reactions of this nature? If this happened to you would you trust that what you are feeling is real? What about love in the first week, or the first month? Is this classified as love at first sight? Surely you have not gotten to know each other well enough to make that sort of decision/connection? Then you hear of people falling in love after 6 months or even years? So I question, is there any difference between love in the very early days or love that takes months or years to develop? Is anything that takes less than say 6 months to develop, not real, maybe lust or fantasy?
Well I'm home ill with a stomach bug, and am super bored. LOL Was on here and noticed that nearly 600 people have viewed my blogs. Wow.....where are you guys??? Love that you read the blogs, but would really find it great if you would post as well. Now I know that it is not everyone's thing, and that OK, but would like to put a bit of a challenge to you all. :) How about popping on here and just saying "Hi", Perhaps you could tell us from what part of the world you are from? You can of course say more if you wish, but post and at least say hi. I am really interested in how many responses we can get here?? Come play with me...please. Now dont forget its a great way to get yourself seen by others, and you never know, that special person you have been waiting for, just may see YOU. xx Come on......come say hello. :) xxx
There is a particular commercial here that always gets me thinking in fantasy land every time I see it. It drives me crazy trying to work out what I would do if given the opportunity. So I thought I would ask you all, I really am interested in what you would do. If you were given 3 wishes (like Aladin) how would you use them?
Hi all you wonderful people in blog land, really do love your insight, wisdom and humor. I have always been interested in Astrology and how this affects me as a person, but have not really taken much interest in choosing potential partners according to their horoscope signs. Recent reflection of past love/love interests has found a startling thing. I have had the best relationships with those that are meant to astrologically match my sign of Leo. Now I had always thought that people that put too much weight into this as a bit fanatical ( sorry) but I am now starting to wonder? What about you? Do you believe in the horoscope matching for relationships? Have your best relationships being the best matches astrologically? Is there something in this or am I commencing the first stages of senility?? LOL
