So how do you show love to your partner and what does your partner need to do for you in order for you to feel loved by them?
I believe that there are 3 main ways that people show their love for each other.
1. Words....You tell them you love them all the time, tell them that how special they are and what qualities you like about them.
2. Gifts....Well here you would feel loved because your partner brought you little or big gifts, you need to have theses to feel that you are truly loved.
3. Actions....Now here your partner doing the things for you like helping you with the chores, giving you a massage, making time for you, or writing a poem or letter.
Now you may be saying, well I need all of these to feel loved, and I agree, but I think that we all tend lean more to one or two of them.
For me I feel loved most when my partner does things for me, but do also need to have this supported with some word. Now I dont mean that he need to tell me he loves me all the time, or even at all, but hearing that you are special, that you look nice...that sort of thing goes down real well. he he
Now if I was with a partner that wanted to show love by buying things for me all the time, though I would enjoy them, eventually I will feel unloved.
I tend to show love the same way as I like to receive it, actions supported by word and I dont tend to think of buying him anything unless its a special occasion. too bad, he he xx
So what about you, do you agree with this? What makes you feel loved and how do you like to show it back?
So how do you show love to your partner and what does your partner need to do for you in order for you to feel loved by them?
I believe that there are 3 main ways that people show their love for each other.
1. Words....You tell them you love them all the time, tell them that how special they are and what qualities you like about them.
2. Gifts....Well here you would feel loved because your partner brought you little or big gifts, you need to have theses to feel that you are truly loved.
3. Actions....Now here your partner doing the things for you like helping you with the chores, giving you a massage, making time for you, or writing a poem or letter.
Now you may be saying, well I need all of these to feel loved, and I agree, but I think that we all tend lean more to one or two of them.
For me I feel loved most when my partner does things for me, but do also need to have this supported with some word. Now I dont mean that he need to tell me he loves me all the time, or even at all, but hearing that you are special, that you look nice...that sort of thing goes down real well. he he
Now if I was with a partner that wanted to show love by buying things for me all the time, though I would enjoy them, eventually I will feel unloved.
I tend to show love the same way as I like to receive it, actions supported by word and I dont tend to think of buying him anything unless its a special occasion. too bad, he he xx
So what about you, do you agree with this? What makes you feel loved and how do you like to show it back?
communication, communication, communication, if one partner is in need of more affection physically then talk about it....it can surely survive if you listen to each other and love each other enough.
communication, communication, communication, if one partner is in need of more affection physically then talk about it....it can surely survive if you listen to each other and love each other enough.
Well it looks like actions followed by words are winning here so far.
Though I do wonder do you all return the love in the same manner that you like to receive it?
Also what if you found yourself in a relationship where you needed to be shown love, but your partners main way to show it back was with words? Would this relationship survive?
Thank you all for your comments.
Well it looks like actions followed by words are winning here so far.
Though I do wonder do you all return the love in the same manner that you like to receive it?
Also what if you found yourself in a relationship where you needed to be shown love, but your partners main way to show it back was with words? Would this relationship survive?
Well right now do not have a partner.But I perfer to to see their actions not their words mainly.To me gifts are nice but the main thing is the way she will act towards me.(Sorry I had a ex wife tell me one thing , but her actions said a totally oppisite thing)( That Is a scar for me to deal with.) I prefere a hug with kind words wich will mean more than just pretty words or fine gift will.
Well right now do not have a partner.But I perfer to to see their actions not their words mainly.To me gifts are nice but the main thing is the way she will act towards me.(Sorry I had a ex wife tell me one thing , but her actions said a totally oppisite thing)( That Is a scar for me to deal with.) I prefere a hug with kind words wich will mean more than just pretty words or fine gift will.
Words and actions. I like a man that can communicate how he feels and in different ways. Email, in person, phone, text messages, etc. Also, it's the little actions that are from the heart that mean more to me. Like a poem he wrote for me, a collection of songs that expresses how he feels, a card just because, flowers, a call at work just because, finding something that he knows I have been looking for or finding out information on something I want. Being truthful and following through on what he says he will do. Things of that nature mean the most to me.
Words and actions. I like a man that can communicate how he feels and in different ways. Email, in person, phone, text messages, etc. Also, it's the little actions that are from the heart that mean more to me. Like a poem he wrote for me, a collection of songs that expresses how he feels, a card just because, flowers, a call at work just because, finding something that he knows I have been looking for or finding out information on something I want. Being truthful and following through on what he says he will do. Things of that nature mean the most to me.
I think Rwgroot60 and Vegas pretty much summed it up for me. Attentiveness is the ultimate gift, as both alluded to. If a man can keep me in his thoughts throughout the day and let me know that he is not ashamed of that fact, then I would be forever willing to try to make him happy (assuming we are compatible on other multiple levels...). That is one of the most important things a man can do for a woman: just let her know you still care, you still love her, you still think about her while at work, you still want to be with her.
And to show it, MAKE time for her, TELL her your feelings, SHOW her you miss her, ACT like you want her in your life and TREAT her like an EQUAL.--True
I think Rwgroot60 and Vegas pretty much summed it up for me. Attentiveness is the ultimate gift, as both alluded to. If a man can keep me in his thoughts throughout the day and let me know that he is not ashamed of that fact, then I would be forever willing to try to make him happy (assuming we are compatible on other multiple levels...). That is one of the most important things a man can do for a woman: just let her know you still care, you still love her, you still think about her while at work, you still want to be with her.
And to show it, MAKE time for her, TELL her your feelings, SHOW her you miss her, ACT like you want her in your life and TREAT her like an EQUAL.--True
I love the words and need them, but they need to be backed up with action. I don't need gifts at all. Its the little actions that mean the most for me. Things like sharing a bowl of icecream with one spoon and having him feed it to me. Holding and caressing my hand while we watch tv. Pulling the blankets up over my shoulders while we are sleeping because he worries I'll get cold. Sending me an unexpected text message just because he's thinking of me, especially if it is about a silly private joke between us. Even just having great conversations that show respect and caring for my opinion in the way he talks with me, and how he asks for MY opinion because it matters to him. All the little ways he show me that he knows me better than anyone else does.
These small simple actions, combined with words of love mean the world to me.
I love the words and need them, but they need to be backed up with action. I don't need gifts at all. Its the little actions that mean the most for me. Things like sharing a bowl of icecream with one spoon and having him feed it to me. Holding and caressing my hand while we watch tv. Pulling the blankets up over my shoulders while we are sleeping because he worries I'll get cold. Sending me an unexpected text message just because he's thinking of me, especially if it is about a silly private joke between us. Even just having great conversations that show respect and caring for my opinion in the way he talks with me, and how he asks for MY opinion because it matters to him. All the little ways he show me that he knows me better than anyone else does.
These small simple actions, combined with words of love mean the world to me.
For me words feel great, but I have been with some of the best love salesmen out there and ultimatley ended up with a lemon.
Actions mean more than words. I think an attentive man is king. Show me you are interested in me, show me you are attracted to me, show me you are proud to be with me, show me how much I occupy your mind, show me how you want me in your life and future.
I also highly appreciate a man who is mindful, and is responsible. Be respectful of my time and do not make dates and not show or cancel at the last minute without explanation and if you make a mistake or bad decision as we all tend to do - own up to it and apologize. I don't hold grudges because I have way more productive things to do with my time than sit under a storm cloud, and you will find if matters could be communicated and worked out quickly after an issue happens then it will get resolved and we can move on to the happy times again.
For me words feel great, but I have been with some of the best love salesmen out there and ultimatley ended up with a lemon.
Actions mean more than words. I think an attentive man is king. Show me you are interested in me, show me you are attracted to me, show me you are proud to be with me, show me how much I occupy your mind, show me how you want me in your life and future.
I also highly appreciate a man who is mindful, and is responsible. Be respectful of my time and do not make dates and not show or cancel at the last minute without explanation and if you make a mistake or bad decision as we all tend to do - own up to it and apologize. I don't hold grudges because I have way more productive things to do with my time than sit under a storm cloud, and you will find if matters could be communicated and worked out quickly after an issue happens then it will get resolved and we can move on to the happy times again.
Words speak volumes and actions follow through. These are gifts in themselves but I do admit in small part they are a natural transition but by gifts I mean picking up a tea on the way over which is part action but not a true gift in the sense of a present but maybe that's what you meant? I am going to be totally captured by the man who tells and shows me how much he loves me and the man with the wallet who sends empty gifts will never have my heart. Similar to those who connect for looks only - one day those will face. There has to be more.
Words speak volumes and actions follow through. These are gifts in themselves but I do admit in small part they are a natural transition but by gifts I mean picking up a tea on the way over which is part action but not a true gift in the sense of a present but maybe that's what you meant? I am going to be totally captured by the man who tells and shows me how much he loves me and the man with the wallet who sends empty gifts will never have my heart. Similar to those who connect for looks only - one day those will face. There has to be more.
Quoting: Originally posted by ozredhead62 So how do you show love to your partner and what does your partner need to do for you in order for you to feel loved by them?
I believe that there are 3 main ways that people show their love for each other.
1. Words....You tell them you love them all the time, tell them that how special they are and what qualities you like about them.
2. Gifts....Well here you would feel loved because your partner brought you little or big gifts, you need to have theses to feel that you are truly loved.
3. Actions....Now here your partner doing the things for you like helping you with the chores, giving you a massage, making time for you, or writing a poem or letter.
Now you may be saying, well I need all of these to feel loved, and I agree, but I think that we all tend lean more to one or two of them.
For me I feel loved most when my partner does things for me, but do also need to have this supported with some word. Now I dont mean that he need to tell me he loves me all the time, or even at all, but hearing that you are special, that you look nice...that sort of thing goes down real well. he he
Now if I was with a partner that wanted to show love by buying things for me all the time, though I would enjoy them, eventually I will feel unloved.
I tend to show love the same way as I like to receive it, actions supported by word and I dont tend to think of buying him anything unless its a special occasion. too bad, he he xx
So what about you, do you agree with this? What makes you feel loved and how do you like to show it back?
Oh my am I ever going to get it now.
I think the way you show love is by giving of yourself without expectation. Giving flowers because you are very sexually aroused, and knowing you will get some is self serving and not a gift at all.
But doesn't it seem silly to have to give a gift or bribe someone to get what you need in a relationnship. Why not just ask for what you need. You could always send a box of chocolates, without expectation telling her she was amazing the night before.
Gifts, Words and Actions are all effective ways to show love, but actions stand the test of time, even though they might not have the same impact as some gifts or words.
But what really will be remembered is that the acts, words or gifts were given selflessly and only to make you feel amazing. Like the most important person in the universe
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Quoting: Originally posted by ozredhead62 So how do you show love to your partner and what does your partner need to do for you in order for you to feel loved by them?
I believe that there are 3 main ways that people show their love for each other.
1. Words....You tell them you love them all the time, tell them that how special they are and what qualities you like about them.
2. Gifts....Well here you would feel loved because your partner brought you little or big gifts, you need to have theses to feel that you are truly loved.
3. Actions....Now here your partner doing the things for you like helping you with the chores, giving you a massage, making time for you, or writing a poem or letter.
Now you may be saying, well I need all of these to feel loved, and I agree, but I think that we all tend lean more to one or two of them.
For me I feel loved most when my partner does things for me, but do also need to have this supported with some word. Now I dont mean that he need to tell me he loves me all the time, or even at all, but hearing that you are special, that you look nice...that sort of thing goes down real well. he he
Now if I was with a partner that wanted to show love by buying things for me all the time, though I would enjoy them, eventually I will feel unloved.
I tend to show love the same way as I like to receive it, actions supported by word and I dont tend to think of buying him anything unless its a special occasion. too bad, he he xx
So what about you, do you agree with this? What makes you feel loved and how do you like to show it back?
Oh my am I ever going to get it now.
I think the way you show love is by giving of yourself without expectation. Giving flowers because you are very sexually aroused, and knowing you will get some is self serving and not a gift at all.
But doesn't it seem silly to have to give a gift or bribe someone to get what you need in a relationnship. Why not just ask for what you need. You could always send a box of chocolates, without expectation telling her she was amazing the night before.
Gifts, Words and Actions are all effective ways to show love, but actions stand the test of time, even though they might not have the same impact as some gifts or words.
But what really will be remembered is that the acts, words or gifts were given selflessly and only to make you feel amazing. Like the most important person in the universe
